Laid Bare is Jesse Fink’s startlingly honest, deeply personal account of emotional and mental oblivion after divorce, interwoven with his experiences as an accidental ‘player’ in a world where dating is a blood sport and finding a true connection is harder than ever because of the distractions provided by technology.
It doesn’t shy away from self-exposition, discussion of taboo subjects and what men really think about women, marriage and relationships.
But at the heart of this extraordinary book is how Fink, then a single father whose personal and professional life was falling apart, maintained and repaired his relationship with his now-teenage daughter, Evie.
Laid Bare is one man’s view of love as he tries to figure out what it all means while searching for ‘The One’.
What the critics say about Laid Bare:
‘X-rated, honest and compelling, this is a must-read.’
– Men’s Health
‘An extraordinary book that rattles around your head for days and days. Add to cart now and you can thank me later.’
– Tim Ross
‘A great read. Go out there and get it, especially if you are a newly single dad as well. It might teach you a thing or two about what to do and what not to do.’
– David Campbell, Channel Nine
‘If you’ve had your heart broken/been on the dating scene/had sex, read Laid Bare. Unputdownable.’
– Kerri Sackville
‘An excellent writer and storyteller … compelling reading. Fink’s honesty is admirable, his story bittersweet and his experiences will make the reader squirm.’
– Daily Telegraph
‘One notable exception [to the string of unsatisfying books and articles about sex in the digital age] was Jesse Fink’s harrowing memoir, Laid Bare, in which he chronicled his sex-addled online dating adventures as a newly single father. The difference was Fink readily admitted he behaved as a ruthless cad towards the women he met and his self-loathing gave his book an authenticity sorely lacking in similar works.’
– Sydney Morning Herald
‘A balls-and-all account of a bloke using extreme physical activity to try to mend a broken heart. Fink opens his deep wounds for inspection, his engaging style pitch perfect to document both his foolhardy actions and his extreme vulnerability.’
– Townsville Bulletin
‘Like Penthouse Letters with post-orgasmic guilt … one man’s journey into the “gratification now” of the internet while slowly accepting his complicity in his divorce, before his sanity is salvaged by the unconditional love of his daughter. An engrossing read.’
– Herald Sun
‘A great book.’
‘Fink’s brutally honest, tell-all memoir about his adventures in online dating is worth reading as much for his personal journey from committed family man to ruthless cad to devoted dad as for the missives it issues from the frontlines of modern love … Laid Bare doesn’t just chronicle Fink’s post-divorce “festival of sexual bounty”, but also offers some incisive commentary on modern life – including the observation that there are serious pitfalls to having too much choice.’
– The Drum (ABC)
‘An extraordinary depiction of how sex, even too much sex, can be a normal and healthy part of coping and grief in the life of a man.’
– Dr David Ley, author, The Myth of Sex Addiction
‘Laid Bare might be a story of the apocalypse of and after divorce, but it’s still applicable to the broader male experience, especially as modern man sinks further into the Internet Age.’
– Cairns Post
'An unputdownable read. Essential for every man, post separation, nearing separation, in the event of separation, or just anyone who wants the warts and all insights into an unpredictable voyage you never knew you needed before you could come out the other side. Women who want to understand the male psyche should also read this book. For me, it was astonishingly close to the bone from what I hear from men so frequently. If you're up for honesty, rawness and real life, get yourself a copy.'
– Jasmin Newman, sex & relationships coach, Relating to Men
After two Australian editions (2012 and 2017), Laid Bare is now out of print. To order a signed and personalised copy, contact Jesse at email@example.com